Accept This About Life

1. People usually aren't listening. They are either thinking of what they are going to say next, or something else entirely.
2. Everyone is insecure about something, it's not just you.
3. You are going to die no matter what.
4. Your kids will experience hardship.
5. The bigger an organization is, the harder it is to make a change even if the need is so obvious.
6. Some people are bad and have bad intentions.
7. Many people (not all) will steal $100 from you today even if it means missing the opportunity to earn $1000 from you next week.
8. You will never be 100% sure about decision ever. But always make a decision because it's better to go back and fix it than to never make it at all.
9. There is ALWAYS someone who makes more money than you, is more fit, has a better looking spouse, has an easier life, good things happen to them. Usually more than just one.
10. How you react to an event, problem, emotion, or anything, is more important than the actual event, problem, emotion or whatever. You cannot control your emotions, you cannot control others, all you can control is how you are going to react. Sometimes it's easy but usually it's really really hard.

Nice Guys Finish Last

I remember when I was younger, around 17 through about 26 years old I was lucky enough to be able to date a variety of some really beautiful and desirable girls. Gee whiz, some didn't even make it to the "date" stage, our raging hormones were so urgent and strong. Regardless, I think I was too much of a straight shooter in that, I didn't get any of these girls pregnant. I practiced "safe" sex and was very careful not to make a "mistake".

Many of my less responsible friends and relatives however, were not nearly so careful and ended up fathering a few children here and there, much to the initial horror of their parents. It's not like they ended up working in a coal mine the rest of their lives either. Job opportunities magically appeared, not like when I graduated from college and I couldn't even get a job interview the first year. If you have a kid with somebody, trust me they're not going to let you sit there with no job offers. Somebody somewhere will know of some opportunity for you to work and help pay for that child.

Several decades later, I now find myself regretting my carefulness as my aforementioned acquaintance's children are gleefully shown in pictures by their "illegitimate" parents on various social media sites attending their high school reunions and weddings and everything else that normally happens to young people coming of age. All that early drama is long forgotten while "responsible" guys like myself are left out of all that fun stuff.

Nobody cares how "responsible" I was. "Oh Kurt we so admire you for not having a kid out of wedlock". Bullshit. They just think I'm a weirdo, for not having any kids. Don't be a responsible idiot. The goal is to father at least one child while you are young and in demand and strike while the iron is hot, or you'll be left out of the mix, wondering what might have been.

The end.

Sincerely,

Me

Watch Out For "Saviors"

Some people will come into your life and create huge problems for you and then campaign against the very problems they created, appearing to be on your side. They come off looking like big heroes, when in actuality you would have been better off if they had never shown up. Try to see through this ruse and you will be better off for it, as it seems to be a very common way for your "friends" and even your own family to sabotage your life. Very often they will be thinly disguised sociopaths-people who think nothing of destroying other people's lives, and then sleep like a baby.

These people will be easy to spot because they usually will have the following characteristics in common:

• Control Freaks-they have to know what you're doing at all times and if you're finding happiness and success in doing it they will try to sabotage you.
• No Conscience. They don't feel bad......about anything whatsoever.
• Insecure Egomaniacs. That about sums it up.
• They themselves are never truly happy. If you know a control freak that's financially prosperous and still constantly miserable, chances are they're "saviors".
• They will go out of their way to hunt you down just to tell you how great everything is going for them, even if it actually is not going that well.
• They seem to have been put on earth for the express purpose of ruining your life.